Men on dating apps: Be careful. Women have you figured out. At least they know you're lying about your height.
Women use ChatGPT a new, creative, and detective way to determine whether the men they chat with on apps are being truthful about the heights they list on their profiles. They do this by feeding the AI platform a few photos and asking it to guess the man's height.
“Girls use ChatGPT “To find out if men lie about their height on dating apps,” Justine Moore said in an interview mail on X“Upload 4 photos, proportions and surroundings are used to estimate height.”
After providing ChatGPT with four photos of the man, Moore received the following response: “Based on the images you uploaded, I would guess the man is approximately 6'3″ or 6'4″ given his proportions and how he appears next to other people and objects in the photos.”
Moore did not respond. Luckrequest for comment, but wrote on X: “I tested this on 10 friends and family members – all estimates were within 1 inch of their actual height.”
It's just the latest trend of women using technology to outsmart men on dating apps. Women are turning to online forums and Facebook groups called “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” that collect information about potential partners, such as whether they have cheated in the past or whether they display any red flags.
“Women are also great at searching the internet to get a full picture of the person they're talking to, whether that's checking out their social handles or getting help from savvy friends,” Ginny Assimosformer vice president eHarmony for 10 years, he said Luck. Google Reverse Image Search and online background checks are other ways women use technology to get to know men on dating apps. ChatGPT can also be used to check a potential date's background and see what other information about them appears online, Assimos said.
Why Men Lie About Their Height on Dating Apps
While it may seem stereotypical to say that only men lie about their appearance or details on dating apps, it’s a misconception. However, it is a widespread phenomenon, and Assimos estimates that people lie about their height “very often” on dating apps. “I’d say at least 50% of the time.
“It really ruins the experience for a lot of people who go through cycles of hope and disappointment and then have to use apps again because it’s hard to meet people otherwise,” Assimos said. “So it’s not in anyone’s best interest to lie, but people do it all the time.”
In fact, women are also prone to lying about personal information on dating apps.
“Men lie about their height as often as women lie about their age, which is often the case,” Elsa Morekdating coach for men who has more than 180,000 followers on Instagram and nearly 150,000 followers on TikTok. “It definitely creates a lot of distrust in dating apps because that’s not the only way people lie on there.” People also use filters and other photo-editing techniques that aren’t visible to the naked eye, such as to cover up wrinkles and make their hair look thicker, Morek said.
Cheating in dating goes back a long way. In fact, “human mating strategies have always involved some form of deception,” Wendy Walshclinical psychologist and relationship expert DatingAdvice.comsaid Luck“Evolutionary psychologists argue that our choice of partner is linked to reproductive fitness, even if we do not consciously want to have a child.”
This instinct may lead women to lie about their age and weight, “creating the illusion of youth and health,” Walsh said. For men, the deception is about height, “because anthropologically, women wanted to produce strong sons. Women also preferred taller, stronger men for protection. Some evolutionary psychologists would say this selection bias is hardwired into our ancient brains.”
Using AI in Dating
While AI is used as a fact-checking tool to evaluate potential dates, the use of the technology is expanding even further. The use of AI in dating apps has made the tradition more like a game, Assimos said.
“Dating has become gamified through apps, which I don’t think is a good thing,” she said. “People forget that there are people behind the profile and they should be treated kindly.”
On the other hand, AI is also used to create fake relationships with bots, which can be just as creepy.
“The type of AI that worries me most about our personal relationships is artificial intimacy,” Walsh said. “People can now have emotional relationships with a bot or an operating system where the technology is all-consuming adoration and the relationship involves little exchange and no friction. This trend could emotionally numb an entire generation.”