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“I pictured myself as my lover, a cisgender man, talking to a woman dressed to receive him as I always have.”
“Slow-moving, slow-talking, with a melancholy sense of humor, my lover was in many ways my ideal of a man,” writes Maxine Swann in this week’s Modern Love essay.
“So when we were told to imitate a man in my drag king workshop, he was the person who came to mind.”
Need some Labor Day listening? Consider NPR’s podcast, “Rough Translation,” whose new series explores the “Love Commandos,” a group in India that strove to protect and shelter young lovers on the run.
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